"Am I enough?" This is the question that I ask myself daily, several times throughout the day. Am I enough? Pretty enough? Smart enough? Funny enough? Why does she always seem to be better than me? Why do they have it easier? Why? Why? So many questions and so little answers. The truth is, I don't really know anything. I don't know why they were chosen over you. I don't know why your dream didn't come true. I'm sorry. I'm so sorry that you're questioning your worth, the way that I am right now. I know that it's hard.
The truth is, there are many things we can't control in this life. We can't control the people who don't approve of us, or believe in us. We can't control the outcomes of our actions, and we can't control whether or not things work out for us all the time. Life is full of adversity. But we do have some power, we have the freedom of choice, and opinion. We're free to try and fail and then try again. We're free to be ourselves and to be proud of it. All it takes is practice.
Right now, you may not believe you're good enough. Maybe you've been rejected one too many times, maybe you've been neglected by your parents or maybe what you worked so hard to achieve came crashing down on you. I know it sucks. The first thing you have to do is realize that you're never going to find the answers that you want, like why this happened to you, and why someone else might've gotten what you so desperately wanted. Accept that you're never going to have all of the answers figured out, and let that burden fall from your shoulders. Instead embrace who you are right now, and what you have so you can start from the ground up. The real you is worth embracing.
All you have to do is just keep going. Start in a new direction, discover a new you, and fall in love with the process. Practice telling yourself nice things until you actually mean it. Let go of the people who don't give you the proper time of day, and focus on the ones who do. Start a step by step process for building up the life you dream of for yourself, and if one door closes, open another one.
I think the key to feeling good enough, is treating yourself right. I know that life hasn't always treated you the way you deserve, but you can. You can be kind to yourself, you can build yourself up, and you can create a life worth living. You are enough already. Because you already have the strength in you to withstand adversity and to thrive, all you have to do is utilize it.
Be kind to yourselves, Love Jo xox
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